What is Female ejaculation?

Female ejaculation?

Question:
I have been with my partner for nearly three years and I have never been able to orgasm. But lately when we have been making love he has been making me pee instead. I was wanting to know why this is.

Answer:
First of all, know that you are not alone. Over 26 percent of women report having difficulties with orgasm. It is critical that enough continued and direct stimulation of the clitoris occurs in order to achieve orgasm. Not only do many men not realise this (and stop stimulating too early), but women also assume that orgasm can be easily achieved during intercourse – not so, according to sexological research. Women who do report experiencing reliable and frequent orgasms through intercourse are those who either using the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT), in which the partner "rides high" on the woman, grinding, rather than thrusting, so their pelvis provides continued clitoral stimulation during intercourse, or, they are women who adequately or continually stimulate the clitoris during sex, or they are women who feel pleasure through their G-spot during intercourse. It’s very possible you could be one of these women, because women who feel G-Spot pleasure often report an initial feeling of having to pee. With continued G-Spot stimulation, that feeling passes, and pleasure, sometimes intensely to orgasm, can occur.

Also, a small fraction of women can be female ejaculators. The fluid released, on orgasm, or just before, is often mistaken for urine, but is, in fact, quite different in substance, and nothing at all to worry about. Another possibility to consider is that just prior to, and during orgasm, the whole pelvic region contracts in rapid "pleasure pulses", including the bladder and urethra, as well as the pelvic floor muscles. It’s possible that as you approach orgasm, some of the muscle tension of your increased sexual response, and smaller contractions, are triggering the release of urine. If you feel this is the case, it would be a good idea to talk with your sexual health GP about possible solutions. If you feel on the other hand, that this occurrence is due to G-Spot stimulation, you can lessen the anxiety through reading books and articles on female ejaculation, and talking with your partner about your pleasure in lovemaking, by perhaps suggesting increased foreplay, alternate positions, and variation of stimulation, not only expecting pleasure through intercourse.